| "Be kind to others", "be humble", "always yield", are ideas so deeply ingrained in me that even today, I hesitate to ta I cringed reading the first half of the book and especially on the first few "mistakes" because I so see myself in this book | It was in the spur of the moment but didn't deal with passive aggressive or bullies |
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| and try not to lose ourselves | Highl Brilliant What a revelation! Rather than aggressively imposing our needs on them and turning them off, our assertiveness makes them feel needed and they find satisfaction in responding |
It's a way to stop being too good,,not stop being good!.
26| So much good advice with no padding of numerous case studies, gets to the point | It gave me a chance to both correct the way I communicate and watch for aggressive communication in others |
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| "Be kind to others", "be humble", "always yield", are ideas so deeply ingrained in me that even today, I hesitate to take the last piece of whatever on the table, even if I really wanted it | The information the author offers, if you apply it, can change your life in so many satisfying ways |
I smiled and felt understood, wondered why I became who I am today and appreciated how far I have come in becoming who I want to be.
28| Perhaps it was a subliminal attempt to sidestep dealing with my own issues by focusing on other people problems | Simple effective ways to deal with your perfectionism, say "no" so you don't take on too much, express your anger, stop giving advice, support those in grief, stop trying to save others,tell others exactly what you want from them -- all in ways that leave you feeling good about yourself |
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| Such compelling assertions, because they are clear, honest, and respectful, tend to make others want to give you what you want, desire and deserve |
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